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Gaining Confidence - P1

Updated: May 26

Why are there SO many women in the world that choose to pick themselves apart instead of putting their energy towards fueling the good in them? I mean really, who’s frickin bright idea was it to start that BS? 


I don’t say that to hate on the girls who lack self confidence. I definitely used to be one.. I could have been like president of the freaking club. I still have issues with it every once in a while, but that’s okay – everyone does at times. 


I originally thought of listing ideas that would help instill confidence, but I think it’s more than that. I think it’s important to understand why you feel a certain way. 


So, what drives your insecurities? Obviously, it’s different for everyone, so I encourage you to see how this plays a role in your life. 


Here are some of my thoughts:

  • We’ve heard other people talking bad about themselves, so it’s something we’ve (unconsciously) learned. 

  • We compare ourselves to others, even though everyone brings different qualities to the table. I could be jealous of someone for being in great shape, and that same person could be jealous of me for starting my own blog. We just all focus on different things at different times. 

  • We don’t want to seem conceited or self centered. But if you think about it, is that really the worst? You’re choosing to talk bad about yourself because you’re afraid that others may judge you for being happy with/for yourself. 


Those were just a few things that pertained to my struggle. Once you figure out what specific things trigger your insecurity and why, you’ll be able to solve those issues, or at least avoid the situations/environments that lead you to them.


Also, be aware of how you speak to (or about) yourself. Ideally, you’ll be majorly positive. If not, try to recognize when you’re talking poorly. When you realize it, you should follow that statement with a positive aspect or quality in you.


It’s like promoting/marketing/selling yourself. If you have a product, you don’t focus on telling people about the bad qualities, you maximize on the good. Take an iPhone for an example.. They have some negative qualities. They shatter easily, battery life can suck, whatever – but they still dominate the market because of the good features, like their sleek design and the face recognition for example. 


My last piece of advice (before part 2) is kinda reiterating what I said earlier. You have to be careful in choosing your environment and the people that you surround yourself with. 


  • If we constantly spend time on social media, it’s pretty common to start comparing ourselves to others. 

  • If we’re being honest with ourselves in realizing that we’re spending time doing the wrong things with the wrong people, we obviously aren’t gonna feel good about it.

  • If we surround ourselves with people that treat us badly, we’ll start believing in that. 

  • If we surround ourselves with people who talk down on themselves, it’s likely for us to do the same. 

** Okay – that’s all I have for part 1. For part 2, I want to talk about ways that we can personally manifest our confidence. See you next week 😉